Qualities+of+a+High+EQ+Person

 //- “I feel impatient.” vs. “This is ridiculous.”// // - “I feel hurt and bitter.” vs. “You are an insensitive jerk.” // // - “I feel afraid.” vs. “You are driving like an idiot.” //  //- Thoughts: I feel like... & I feel as if.... & I feel that...// // - Feelings: I feel ___. //  //- “I feel jealous.” vs. “You are making me jealous.”//  //- “How will I feel if I do this?”... “How will I feel if I don’t?”//  //- They ask “How will you feel if I do this?”... “How will you feel if I don’t?”//  //- They use what others call “anger” to help them feel energized to take productive// // action. //  //- They show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people’s feelings.// // - They ask themselves “How do I feel?”... “What would help me feel better?” // // - They ask others “How do you feel?”... “What would help you feel better?” //
 * 1. Label their feelings, rather than labeling people or situations. **
 * 2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings. **
 * 3. Take responsibility for their feelings. **
 * 4. Use their feelings to help them make decisions. **
 * 5. Show respect for other people’s feelings. **
 * 6. Feel energized, not angry. **
 * 7. Validate other people’s feelings. **
 * 8. Practice getting a positive value from their negative emotions. **

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 * <span style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; padding-bottom: 0in; padding-left: 0in; padding-right: 0in; padding-top: 0in;">9. Don’t advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others. **

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 * <span style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; padding-bottom: 0in; padding-left: 0in; padding-right: 0in; padding-top: 0in;">10. Avoid people who invalidate them or don’t respect their feelings. **